Revolutionary Agreement #10
Mar 18, 2021
On 11/11/2020, Good of the Whole offered an all-day environment for a Healing Experience and an opportunity for us to get to know one another on a more intimate level. We shared stories; we were honest, vulnerable, and open to change. On that day, the 12 Revolutionary Agreements were introduced by its author, Marian Head, and two certified RA Coaches, Sharon Hardy and Linda Rosenthal.
It was clear that many of us in The Connection Field wanted to learn more about these transformative agreements, from Marian’s book, “Revolutionary Agreements – A Personal Path to Peace on Earth” (www.agreementsinstitute.com)Each week, in the Connection Field Digest, Linda and Sharon will give a very brief overview of each agreement, so that each one of us can benefit by living them and enjoying greater inner peace every day.The three pillars of the Revolutionary Agreements are:Truth, Acceptance, and GratitudeThere are four agreements under each one.
See the best in myself and others
This agreement is the 2nd under the pillar of Gratitiude
Too many people criticize or put other people down - especially behind their backs. This agreement challenges us instead to see the goodness in each person, including ourselves. In another of Marian Head's books, Gratitude Journal for a Healthy Marriage, she shares how she rescued her marriage with this agreement. She changed her focus from what she did NOT like about her husband to what she DID like. She started every day by focusing on seeing the best in him, writing one thing she was grateful for in a special gratitude journal. Most revealing about the power of practicing this is one line from her book: "Without asking Glenn to do anything differently, I was falling in love with him again."
Our ATTENTION follows our INTENTION. If we are looking for the best, that is what we will see and find. Additionally, by seeing the best in ourselves and in others, we support the best, and energize the best. The other person feels supported to be the best they can be. This is a practice. The next time you feel critical of yourself or of someone, take a moment and choose - what is a positive aspect you can focus on instead? This does not mean avoiding conflict (see prior Agreements!) but does mean that we are oriented toward looking for the best. This is a transformational practice that brings greater peace and joy into our lives. Take a moment now and write down the 12 best attributes you possess! See the best in yourself, as well as in others.
"Everyone has inside of them a piece of good news. The good news is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is! " Anne Frank
"I consider my ability to rouse enthusiasm among people the greatest asset I possess. The way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement." Charles Schwab
"Sometimes our light goes out but is blown again into flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes the deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light." Albert Schweitzer